The Biggest Online Dating Mistakes Men Make

Dating has completely changed from your parent's era, or even your own if you are an older individual entering the scene after a long absence! Today, online dating is everywhere and if the television and online ads are to be believed people are falling in love all over the place! Unfortunately, this is not really an accurate depiction of the online dating world. Sorry, no magical instant connections in most cases. Do not be alarmed, however, there are some things you can do, or more accurately not do to create a more successful experience. Here are just a few of the biggest online dating mistakes men make.

Bedroom Focus

What type of dating site are you using? If it is one billed as a romantic gathering place where most clients are trying to find "the one", you are not going to get very far with a bedroom focused approach. Do not bombard the women with requests to "slip into something more comfortable" and take pictures or other such non-sense. There are places you can meet others with this same agenda, just be sure that is the type of site you are using if it is your goal! Otherwise you are going to wind up with a number of rejections and sometimes even a few women who will tell you where to go.

Read, Read and Read Again!

People are visual beings and it can be hard sometimes to realize you should read the profile, particularly if the woman depicted is as they say, smokin 'hot! Yet, you really should read her profile because somewhere along the way there are bound to be some deal breakers for her, for instance if you smoke or drink. Probably one of the biggest complaints women have about online dating is the fact that men do not go past their profile picture. Remember, you are here to meet women you are compatible with on many levels, not just physical.

Long Winded

When you have mastered the above issues, it is time to send out some emails. While you should read everything she posted on her profile you do not need to have hit every point in your return email. Sending her a War and Peace sized missive will likely get you relegated to the trash before the first paragraph is read. Keep it engaging, simple and short for the best results. Think about it, online dating clients are likely getting several emails per day!

Sites

Where are you spending your online dating budget? There are so many sites out there it is enough to make your head spin and you may be tempted to opt for the cheapest alternative. This could be a big mistake! You will be much better served to stick with the big names in the business, particularly if you are new to the process. These companies have a proved track record and a much larger clientele. More members means a better chance you will meet someone you are compatible with.

Final Thoughts

These are just a few of the biggest mistakes men make in online dating. Other things you will want to avoid are poor spelling, bad pictures, incomplete profiles (yours) and lying on your profile. What is the point of making yourself out to be someone you are not?

Who’s Got the Right to Decide If a Consumer Should Sell Their Airline Miles?

Frequent flier miles – many people get excited when they heard those words. How many of you have signed up for credit cards or shopped in certain places just to get an extra 500 to 1,000 points? A lot of you, right? But, did you know that even though you have bought and paid for these frequent flier miles, you cannot sell these miles.

Surprising isn’t it? Well, it’s even more surprising to find out that, while you can’t sell your miles, your favorite airline has been doing just that. Sites like Points.com can purchase miles from you at significantly less than what you would be getting in a free market. And, a lot less than the amount of money that the airlines are making off of their frequent flier mile programs.

Confused? Then, let’s get you some background on the subject. The frequent flier mile programs were first created as rewards for customer loyalty. These miles could be turned into discounts or credits for airplane tickets. But, soon this changed from just a customer loyalty program into a commodity that could be earned in different ways, including buying from a certain store or using a certain credit card.

Basically, you began to pay to get those loyalty miles. And, in turn, airlines began to make a profit off of these sales because of their relationships with the vendors. As the profits grew bigger from these sales, the airlines began to put more and more restrictions on how you could use your miles and when. The rise of the blackout periods took over.

So, consumers had a ton of miles that they couldn’t use or were getting ready to expire. Now, with panic setting in, they decided to do the next best thing. Sell those miles, get some cash and finally get some benefit out of their miles. Frequent flier brokers began popping up to service this segment of the market and help out the frequent flier in need.

Yet, the airline industry couldn’t just leave this well enough alone. Fearing that this simple exchange of goods would threaten them, they began intimidating their most precious commodity: the consumer. They would disable accounts or take away miles from anyone who dared to sell what was rightfully theirs.

The right to buy and sell frequent flier miles continues to be fought on many grounds, including the courtroom (check out the Delta SkyMiles case from a few years back). There are proponents and opponents on both ends of the spectrum.

How Can a Busy Mom Get Time for Fitness?

Are You a mom? Do You Have Time for Fitness? Moms really have a tough time. They are the cook, the maid, the taxi driver, the teacher, the referee, and the list could go on. If you're a mom, you know how to get things done for everyone else, but chances are, you do not take care of you. In the day where children keep parents on the go, it is hard to do the things you'd like to do.

School schedules, car pools and after school activities combined with household chores and a full-time job does not allow for much time to exercise and workout. However, that excuse is no longer good enough. Today's mom knows how to get things done. They can squeeze in a last minute dentist appointment for little Tamie and show up without a moment to spare for a class play that little Tommy forgot to mention. Super mom can always find time to do whatever needs to be done to run a happy home for all of the occupants. So the "I do not have time" does not fly anymore. In fact, moms everywhere should be embarrassed to use the excuse when a real mom knows, if you really want to do something it's like that Divine Sisterhood stuff, scoot on over, because here comes mom!

It is important to take care of yourself. Plenty of rest and exercise should be before one of those little things that you mark on the calendar and do. In fact, do it now. Mark in your day planner or on the dry-erase board your "me-time." Then, dust off that tennis racket and head on out for the courts with one of your girlfriends, or join a Fitness Center, or take up walking for overall health and fitness. Procrastination is a word that has no meaning for moms wanting to do something nice for their children, the same should apply for what you want or need to do.

Flexibility and diversification is a nice thing. Diversify your workout schedule to include solo walks, tennis matches with girlfriends, and horseback riding with your husband. Be creative in planning your week ahead. If you know that on Monday you have to pick up your daughter from school at 3:00, but your son gets out at 2:30, make proper use of your time and throw your Nike shoes in a gym bag and walk while you wait . If your daughter has a volleyball practice 25 minutes across town at the high school, then take your swimsuit and use the school's swimming pool to swim laps. Most schools do not mind if you call ahead and some even offer free swims on certain days of the week.

The most important thing for you to remember is that because you are a mom, you may have to jump in and take advantage of a thirty-minute window just to have time to exercise. Be prepared for those opportunities and learn to expect the unexpected and take care to use the time wisely. If your son's football practice is held over 45 minutes, continue walking around the track until you hear the sweetest words in the world, "MOM, I'm ready to go!" You can accomplish what you want, even as a busy mom.

Gardening – A Little Bit of TLC Goes a Long Way

Thinking of growing your own vegetable garden? Get ready because, like a pet, or even like a child (though it won’t cry at you when it’s hungry) a vegetable garden needs much care and devotion in order to grow healthily. Attempting to grow your own personal Garden of Eden is quite the task to undertake but, when done right, it can hold breathtaking results. As you’re getting started, there are a few essentials to live by:

Space

If you are like most people, your basic essentials are vegetables like carrots, cucumbers, lettuce, tomatoes and the like. If you are attempting to grow a multitude of plants like these all at once, the key is space. Like many humans, vegetables need space to be comfortable, spreading their roots in the soil and getting an ample amount of sunlight; two essentials for any plant. When configuring your garden plot it is better to overestimate then to underestimate, so be generous with the amount of space you use. This is especially important in planting vegetables that grow in rows such as carrots, radishes and beets. Plant the seeds and/or bulbs of an underground vegetable at a bare minimum of eight inches apart so that your vegetables are not competing for their vital resources and nutrients. This is especially important for underground vegetables as they rely heavily on the ability of their roots to drink in as many nutrients as the can get. Also this will give you better results for your vegetables in the end where they will be more nutritious and more substantial in size. Tomato, cucumber and squash plants all grow in significant size above ground whether it be tall or wide, so they need much space to spread out and attain the maximum amount of sunlight. Each of these plants should initially be given a minimum of 1 ½ feet between each plant as, like with underground plants, this will help to provide bigger and better vegetables in the end.

Soil.

Probably the most crucial element to the health of your so-called vegetative soul is the physical and chemical composition of your soil. Choose the location of your garden carefully as having good soil to work with right from the beginning will make your life so much easier. I would recommend starting by testing the pH of your soil. If a specific plot of soil is too base or too acidic your plants will simply not survive. A good pH for almost all vegetable plants is 6.0; not too base and not too acidic. Adjusting the pH balance of your soil is quite easy and there are many different methods through which you can do this. Ideally your location will have a consistent type of soil considerably deep into the ground. With this the roots will be able to grow deeper and reach an even amount of nutrients. Avoid areas that are either too sandy or ridden with a lot of clay. Soil that is extremely sandy cannot hold moisture for very long and clay soil, although somewhat rich in nutrients, is very compact and holds too much water, which can be just as detrimental to your plants as very dry soil. Find a happy medium where there is enough space between the particles of the soil so that water can filter easily throughout the soil, but at the same time is not so loose that the moisture will quickly evaporate.

When tending to the soil get rid of all rocks in the plot and weed your garden (I kid you not) daily. Weeds are a gigantic deterrent for the healthy growth of those succulent vegetables, which you are presumably striving for. If you plan on adding fertilizer (highly recommended) never, never, neverover fertilize. This is a common mistake that first-time gardeners can easily make so when applying your fertilizer be extremely conscious of the amount that you are using. Also, when applying said fertilizer of your choice, whether it be manure, composted organic material or any other form, you must know that all fertilizers are different and therefore must be applied to your garden in a specific manner. For instance, some must be applied before planting anything and some can be applied after you have planted everything. Make sure you read the package in which your fertilizer came, or ask the provider of the fertilizer about the fertilization process, as the wrong method of application can completely jeopardize your entire garden.

Maintenance

I cannot place enough emphasis on giving a lot of attention to your plants once they have grown. The more you tend to them the more they will show you some love back. Regularly prune off dead/dying leaves as taking those leaves off acts as haircut would for a human; it promotes faster leaf growth and that will eventually result in better reception of sunlight for the plant. Also, regularly take any vegetables that seem rotted or abnormal off of your above ground plants as this will help the health of up-and-coming vegetables. For underground vegetables such as carrots or beets check the leaves of the plant that are seen above ground. Chances are that if the leaves are abnormally colored or that the actual vegetable will be abnormal as well. This applies to lettuce as well where if the leaves are yellowed or brown then the head is not good. Uproot any abnormal vegetables, as this will allow for more space and nutrients for the others. Do not be discouraged by the duds that you find in your garden; vegetable gardening is one big process of trial and error. When your vegetables are ready to be pulled off of the vine or out of the ground you will most definitely know.

When harvesting tomatoes, squash, cucumbers, etc. the first sign to look for is color. If the color of the vegetable is starting to look vibrant, gently pull on the vegetable itself and slightly twist. If it does not easily pop off then it is not ready. Give it a day or so and then try it again. If you are pulling up vegetables from the ground, first dig down a few inches to reach the head of the vegetable and check for size and color. Once again, if it holds the standard vibrancy of color and is of regular size feel free to pull it up.

The roots of each vegetable will be firmly grown into the soil, so slowly pull the vegetable up by the base of the leaves as this will assure that you do not detach the leaves from the actual vegetable itself. If this happens it will be more difficult to unearth the vegetables and in doing so you could potentially endanger other vegetables that are still growing. If any of your vegetables are misshapen they are not necessarily bad. It is fairly common for a brand new garden to have numerous funny looking vegetables, so once again do not be discouraged if your vegetables look like big blobs or just straight aliens.

One of the most important things that any beginner garden can learn is to not be a hero. That is, do not try and take on an enormous garden with 20 tomato plants, 20 cucumber plants, 100 carrots and beets and 30 heads of lettuce. Do not underestimate these plants as like I continuously say, each individual plant requires a large amount of care. A large garden can become overwhelming quickly, especially when there is a diverse configuration of vegetables in the garden, and especially when an inexperienced grower is tending to all of them. It is a much better experience to start small and have fun with it then to be stressed out by your garden. It is not meant to be a grueling process, but rather should be enjoyable. Once you get into the rhythm of growing and become intimately acquainted with each individual plant then it is a good idea to expand. This way you will get the results you are looking for and you may even have a little fun along the way. Spending time on/in a vegetable garden can be rewarding and surprisingly therapeutic, if you start off the right way.